The Hind End of Space

Fun fact: trans women do have a sense of humor about ourselves. We just don’t find the jokes people outside our group make to be very funny.

I can’t remember exactly which episode it was, but one time on TNG Data said something along the lines, “Is a culture of one any less valid than a culture of one billion?” and that kinda resonated with me hardcore.

I hate it when people treat the feelings of trans people, namely trans women, like they don’t matter because “we make up 1% of the world’s population” or something, and well, that’s fucking bullshit. Yeah, ok, there aren’t a lot of us, so what? The point is, WE EXIST. REMEMBER WE EXIST. ACKNOWLEDGE THAT WE EXIST. Stop acting like we’re creepy/weird/unnatural/don’t matter.

I mean come on, people…

So generally when I have to talk to my parents about ~trans stuff~, I do it by writing them a letter, mostly because whenever I try to actually TALK to them about these sorts of things, they change the fucking subject and start attacking me.

Since I intend to get my name changed within the next few weeks, I’ve prepared what is hopefully the last letter I ever have to write to them.

I’d like some input if at all possible.

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>people who take hormones for cosmetic purposes

so last week I talked to this kid who’s in charge of the school newspaper for some article he’s writing on transgender people (he’s been talking with me and a trans guy on campus)

one of the first things he asks me is

“How long did you live as a gay man before transitioning?”

….

yeah.

I was like WHOOOOOOA BACK THE FUCK UP THERE and explained to him why that isn’t really true (in fact, why these days, it's rarely true.)

man, people really don’t get it, do they? It’s a shame how many of the old stereotypes still persist…

“I’m not transmisogynistic, I have FTM friends!” is the equivalent of saying, “I don’t hate black people, I have Asian friends!”

If you misgender one of your trans friends and they call you out on it, do not, I repeat, do NOT get defensive. Why? Because doing so makes it look like you think them being trans is their fault. It is not. If you get called out on this, apologize, tell them you weren’t thinking (not that you “slipped”), and ENSURE that you will not let this happen again. Thinking before you speak isn’t as hard as it sounds.

Thank you.