The Hind End of Space

This is the shit I have to put up with.

There are some days where you just know something is gonna lead you to rage. 

A friend of mine on Facebook posted a picture of one of those trans*girls who always does porn and shit, can’t remember which one, saying “I don’t care if she’s TS or not, she’s hot”. 

Well, this never ends well. One asshole started using the whole “biology” argument. I gave him a simple “fuck you”. Then I get this message.

Sorry, bud, but you’re a man. You might think, act and dress like a woman, and that’s totally fine! I couldn’t give a shit less what you do. But scientifically speaking, until you have that operation, you’re a man.

What if I believe in my heart of hearts that I’m really a dolphin? Does that make me a dolphin? Can I perform the basic actions of a dolphin? And I don’t mean reproduction, plenty of men and women can’t reproduce and that by no means excludes them from their gender so let’s not get into that. But unless I have a surgery to totally reform my body into that of a dolphin… I’ll never be a dolphin. Right?

FUCK. EVERYTHING. I hate using stupid fucking words like “cis privilege” and “cissexism”, but well, I can’t go without using it here. This is fucking ridiculous. This is the shit I put up with. This is why I have no self-confidence. This is why I hate myself.

Yeah, it’s just one shitstain, but well… words hurt.

I am a transwoman. I am not a “trap”. Not a “tranny”. I go by female pronouns, hence the “woman” part (as some people still seem to have a hard time understanding). What’s between my legs? None of your goddamn business, that’s what. Do I act assertive sometimes? Do I have “masculine interests”? Yes, and I’m sure you know plenty of ~*normal girls*~ who do. Just because I don’t fit into your caricature of the transwoman doesn’t negate my status as one. So just remember this. I don’t exist for your amusement. I exist for myself, and nobody else. My goal is to make myself happy.

Trap rant part deux

Okay, so I saw a few reblogs of that post I made last night saying, “WELL YOU SEE, TRAP REFERS A GUY (EMPHASIS ON GUY) THAT PASSES REALLY WELL AS A GIRL”. Okay. I get that.

But it doesn’t make it any less offensive.

Here’s the thing. People are dumb. Most people are ignorant towards trans* issues. Usually, it’s a knee-jerk reaction when “that hot girl has a penis” to say OMG IT’S A TRAP. 

Also, regardless of how YOU use the word, it’s still offensive to plenty of other people. I really hate to use this word, but it’s a great example of cisprivilege. Just because you don’t find it offensive doesn’t mean it’s not offensive to the people on the other end. If you want to crossdress or whatever, that’s totally fine, but please, PLEASE stop using the word. It’s not cool.

One thing I, as a transwoman, hate hearing.

As a transwoman I hear all sorts of stupid shit. But there’s one thing I hear from ciswomen that annoys me to no end, because it’s generally thought of as a compliment.

“You’re SO LUCKY you don’t get periods!”

Well, no, and here’s why.

Are periods painful? I guess so. But here’s the thing–when a girl has her first period, she’s usually being referred to as “becoming a woman”. HMMMM.

Do you need to have periods/a uterus to be viewed as a woman? Absolutely not. But you have to consider this: It’s kind of a dick move to be a rich douchebag complaining to a person of lower economic status about the payments you’re making in your yacht or second home.

Yeah, okay, we get it, we don’t have to go through bloody privates each month, but I’d be lying if that would’ve be preferable to some of the shit we have to deal with.

Why you shouldn’t use the word “trap”.

This is an article from a magazine called “Fucking Trans Women”. It was pointed out to me by a friend of mine, mostly for this article. I LOVE this one because it’s essentially what I wanted to say, just a little less angry.

I’d be lying if I said I never used the word myself, or the word “tranny”. But as I, y'know, matured, I learned how hurtful those words are and stopped using them to describe even myself. We don’t use them, and neither should you. 

(Source: fuckingtranswomen.com)

tw: transphobia and cissexism

I just saw someone on tumblr describe transpeople as being “selfish as fuck”.

Oh dear.

Let me just say that this… this pisses me off to no end, because I’ve heard this several times in my life.

So let me get this straight. I’m selfish because my identity doesn’t quite match the body I was born in and would like to be treated with an ounce of respect and maybe an iota of dignity?

I actually lost a few friends because they “didn’t see it”. Well guess what? Fuck ‘em. If something like that is “ending friendship-worthy” then y'know what? They’re not your friends, and you’re better off without them.

I’m sorry that who I am doesn’t mesh with how you see me or how you THINK I should be. Ultimately, who or what you are matters to only one person: you. There’s nothing wrong with being yourself, and that goes to everyone, not just transpeople. 

Here’s a fun fucking fact. I’m the only MAAB on my mom’s side of the family that’s blood-related to my grandfather. That’s right, my mom has no brothers and I have no male cousins on that side of the family. When I was born my grandparents couldn’t be happier. Of course they don’t know, but that’s besides the point. I’m NOT sorry that who I turned out to me ended up being different from how I started. It’s who I am and I can’t change that. But YOU have a choice in whether or not you want to accept that fact. 

Angry rant over.