A positive thing happening at work?
As some of you know (very few actually) I don’t present as female at work. I should, but when you work in retail, it’s hard to make the switch, especially when your coworkers are mainly stupid kids and old people. A few people know, but not many.
Let me also just say that every time I get “sir"ed by a customer it just ruins my fucking day, even worse when they call me "miss” or “ma'am” initially, then they hear my voice and they… apologize. Ugh. I realize yeah, they have no way of knowing, but what they see isn’t what matters to me, it’s who I am, etc.
Anyway, one customer comes through and I can’t remember what she said completely, but she initially said “he”… then corrected herself with “she”. I was shocked, astounded even. I’ve NEVER had this happen to me before (at work anyway). I really wanted to stop her and say, “Thank you. For reasons you’ll probably never understand.”
It was a little self-confidence boost, and it sure as hell made me smile.
![[A comic panel. A young man in a grey hoodie is ordering a cup of black coffee from a blonde girl at the counter. It is captioned 'I've been looking for a good metaphor for what getting misgendered feels like for me.']](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp2qlc7TFo1qd3tso.png)
![['I've concluded that it feels kind of like this:' the barista smacks the young man across the face with what looks like a large bluefin tuna, while saying with a smile, 'it'll be right out, MA'AM']](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp2qoeurG31qd3tso.png)
![[The young man is holding his coffee in one hand and the side of his face in the other, looking perturbed but saying 'thanks'. 'Why a fish? Well, it hurts like hell.']](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp2qqdAgj01qd3tso.png)
![['And it's frustrating.' The young man is standing at a counter with sugar a pitcher of cream on it, thinking, 'why would you even do that']](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp2qs5EqMh1qd3tso.png)
![['And it's absurd.' The young man is tipping the cream pitcher over his cup of coffee, asking himself 'what about me told her that was necessary anyway']](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp2qtpHDaE1qd3tso.png)
![['And sometimes the stink of it sticks to you all day long.' The young man is walking, looking frustrated, with the cup of coffee to his lips. He is mumbling 'why do people keep hitting me with these motherfucking FISH.']](https://64.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp2qvdpHbP1qd3tso.png)
