The Hind End of Space

a'ight imma ask all of tumblr

does anyone in/from Massachusetts have any experience getting Blue Cross Blue Shield to cover any sort of trans surgeries? I know they cover it, I’m just curious about the process.

>people who take hormones for cosmetic purposes

“I’m not transmisogynistic, I have FTM friends!” is the equivalent of saying, “I don’t hate black people, I have Asian friends!”

If you misgender one of your trans friends and they call you out on it, do not, I repeat, do NOT get defensive. Why? Because doing so makes it look like you think them being trans is their fault. It is not. If you get called out on this, apologize, tell them you weren’t thinking (not that you “slipped”), and ENSURE that you will not let this happen again. Thinking before you speak isn’t as hard as it sounds.

Thank you.

Trap rant part deux

Okay, so I saw a few reblogs of that post I made last night saying, “WELL YOU SEE, TRAP REFERS A GUY (EMPHASIS ON GUY) THAT PASSES REALLY WELL AS A GIRL”. Okay. I get that.

But it doesn’t make it any less offensive.

Here’s the thing. People are dumb. Most people are ignorant towards trans* issues. Usually, it’s a knee-jerk reaction when “that hot girl has a penis” to say OMG IT’S A TRAP. 

Also, regardless of how YOU use the word, it’s still offensive to plenty of other people. I really hate to use this word, but it’s a great example of cisprivilege. Just because you don’t find it offensive doesn’t mean it’s not offensive to the people on the other end. If you want to crossdress or whatever, that’s totally fine, but please, PLEASE stop using the word. It’s not cool.

tw: transphobia and cissexism

I just saw someone on tumblr describe transpeople as being “selfish as fuck”.

Oh dear.

Let me just say that this… this pisses me off to no end, because I’ve heard this several times in my life.

So let me get this straight. I’m selfish because my identity doesn’t quite match the body I was born in and would like to be treated with an ounce of respect and maybe an iota of dignity?

I actually lost a few friends because they “didn’t see it”. Well guess what? Fuck ‘em. If something like that is “ending friendship-worthy” then y'know what? They’re not your friends, and you’re better off without them.

I’m sorry that who I am doesn’t mesh with how you see me or how you THINK I should be. Ultimately, who or what you are matters to only one person: you. There’s nothing wrong with being yourself, and that goes to everyone, not just transpeople. 

Here’s a fun fucking fact. I’m the only MAAB on my mom’s side of the family that’s blood-related to my grandfather. That’s right, my mom has no brothers and I have no male cousins on that side of the family. When I was born my grandparents couldn’t be happier. Of course they don’t know, but that’s besides the point. I’m NOT sorry that who I turned out to me ended up being different from how I started. It’s who I am and I can’t change that. But YOU have a choice in whether or not you want to accept that fact. 

Angry rant over.

Being Trans* Sucks.

Big rant below.

Here’s another thing I’ve been meaning to get off my chest for awhile. Frankly, being trans* sucks.

Oh sure, I’m probably gonna hear some of that, “but you should love your body” bullshit, right? Fuck that noise, and do you know why? Because it’s really offensive to people who are inherently uncomfortable in their bodies. Body/gender dysphoria is a REAL THING, and it’s ingrained into your mind, not caused by social phenomena or whatever. If you’re comfortable in your body, THAT’S TOTALLY OKAY, I’m sure plenty of us would love to be. But there are some of us who DO have to go through absurd processes be it weight loss programs or plastic surgery to actually be able to like the person in the mirror.

I won’t lie, I’m not the model of a transperson. I’m not. But that’s okay. If you’re trans, you’re trans. Doesn’t matter what your personality or interests are. However, I will say I do have a problem with the “DeviantArt Trans” types, who say stupid shit like, “Oh, I don’t want facial hair because I indentify as seme/uke!” Fuck you. You clearly don’t get it and you’re making a mockery of those of us that really do have those issues, be it male-to-females or female-to-males.

And I swear, I’ve never seen a group more ridiculed than the trans* community. Constantly mocked in punchlines of jokes, television shows, movies, whatever—the only other group I can think of that has it NEARLY as bad are people who suffer from dwarfism.

This becomes especially difficult in cosplay. Thanks to a couple chucklefucks on the Internet “it’s a trap” became a thing. I’ll admit, before I came out as trans* I hid behind some of that shit. Now that I have an understanding of who I really am, shit sucks even more. Can’t go anywhere without somebody making an off-color joke or jumping to a conclusion upon hearing my voice or whatever. Jesus. HAVE SOME TACT. If someone MIGHT be trans*, you’re better off assuming that they ARE just in case you say the wrong thing. Better to be flattering than insulting.

And you know, it really sucks for me. I’m scared. Scared off my ass. I’m afraid to be myself in school or the workplace because of how they’ve come to see me. It’s awful. I don’t trust my school, not in the slightest, and my workplace was founded under “family values” and all that old-world bullshit. I got them to let me have a “gender neutral name” on my nametag, but that’s about as far as it’ll go. As for my school, well, it’s not the most… “liberal” of schools, as there are a bit too many jocks for my liking, but that’s probably just my prejudice getting the best of me.

Then there’s my family… ooooh, fuck them. Fuck them HARD. On my mom’s side of the family, she had four sisters. The ones that had kids all had girls. My only sibling is my sister. GUESS WHERE THAT LEFT ME. They’re disapproving and unwilling to even TRY. Whenever I get sick, mom blames the hormones, because it’s easier to just blame what you don’t understand instead of thinking with your goddamn brain for five seconds. My dad was a star football player in high school who got kicked out of college for being a loudmouth jock who didn’t do his work, and is now a truck driver who gets all of his news from—of course—FOX. Need I say more?

Being trans* sucks, but that was pretty much the whole point behind this rant, wasn’t it? And for the stupid people out there, no, you just can’t “go back”. You either are trans* (or at least, somewhere on the spectrum) or you aren’t, simple as that. It’s not a choice. And trust me, I’m sure there are a lot of us out there who would rather live in blissful ignorance than one where you hate your life until you can finally make a change in it.