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Types of cis bigots I am quite tired of (a bit of a rant, this)

kiriamaya:

[warning for cissexism]

The Fundiegelical: “You may think you’re ‘happy’ by wearing the clothing of the opposite sex, but you’re living in sin and you’re going straight to hell! Jesus loves you.”

The “Enlightened” Liberal: “But gender doesn’t even matter, because deep down, we’re all the same. So why is it such a big deal what I call you?”

The TERF: “By embracing a gender role opposite your assigned sex, you are reifying gender/privilege and thus making it that much harder for us to smash gender. I know that sounds contradictory but, if you’d been a feminist for as long as I have, you’d understand.”

The Proto-TERF: “Of course I don’t have anything against trans people, but abortion/sex work/breast cancer/ovarian cancer/whatever is and has always been a women’s issue! Why do you want to take it away from women?”

The Ungendering Fetishist: “Hey, I don’t have anything against sh*m*les! I think you’re hot! I watch sh*m*le porn all the time.”

The Clueless Oppression-Olympian: “Transness is just a white/abled/Western issue, so why should I care about it?”

The Incrementalist: “Look, people just aren’t ready to accept trans folks yet. So instead of arguing about what pronouns to use for you, we should focus on something we can actually accomplish, like [insert other tenuously-related SJ cause here].”

The Genital-Focused: “I totally respect and support trans people, but I would never date one. Because ewww.

The Broad-Stroke Painter: “I once met a trans person who was selfish/mean/creepy/bad in general, so you’re all like that and I won’t respect any of you.”

The Inveterate Essentialist: “But… you can’t be a woman, because you have a PENIS! And chromosomes! And… a PENIS!”

The What-About-Teh-Cis Whiner: “I know my refusal to call you ‘she’ hurts you, but you have to understand that your demand to call you ‘she’ hurts me, too. What about my feelings?”

The Pig-Headed “Skeptic”: “Do you have actual evidence that you’re really a woman? No, of course you don’t, because it’s impossible by definition. No, shut up; I’m right and you’re wrong, PERIOD.”

The “Free Speech” Whiner: "Don’t you think that, in the spirit of free and open discussion, you should listen to my side of things instead of just dismissing it out of hand as ‘bigotry’?”

The Devil’s Advocate: “I’m not saying prejudice is right, but, to be fair, it is a little weird for someone to present as a woman and yet have a penis.”

The Self-Proclaimed “Ally”: “How dare you say I’ve been cissexist? Don’t you know how very supportive I’ve been of you and your causes? Why aren’t you grateful?”

The “Edgy” Comedian: “Look, it was a joke. I’m sorry you’re too unsophisticated to understand why it’s funny; I guess I’m just too edgy for you. Maybe one day, when you grow up a little, you’ll stop trying to censor humor.”

(Hint to cis people: don’t do any of these things.)

May 6

Types of cis bigots I am quite tired of (a bit of a rant, this)

kiriamaya:

[warning for cissexism]

The Fundiegelical: “You may think you’re ‘happy’ by wearing the clothing of the opposite sex, but you’re living in sin and you’re going straight to hell! Jesus loves you.”

The “Enlightened” Liberal: “But gender doesn’t even matter, because deep down, we’re all the same. So why is it such a big deal what I call you?”

The TERF: “By embracing a gender role opposite your assigned sex, you are reifying gender/privilege and thus making it that much harder for us to smash gender. I know that sounds contradictory but, if you’d been a feminist for as long as I have, you’d understand.”

The Proto-TERF: “Of course I don’t have anything against trans people, but abortion/sex work/breast cancer/ovarian cancer/whatever is and has always been a women’s issue! Why do you want to take it away from women?”

The Ungendering Fetishist: “Hey, I don’t have anything against sh*m*les! I think you’re hot! I watch sh*m*le porn all the time.”

The Clueless Oppression-Olympian: “Transness is just a white/abled/Western issue, so why should I care about it?”

The Incrementalist: “Look, people just aren’t ready to accept trans folks yet. So instead of arguing about what pronouns to use for you, we should focus on something we can actually accomplish, like [insert other tenuously-related SJ cause here].”

The Genital-Focused: “I totally respect and support trans people, but I would never date one. Because ewww.

The Broad-Stroke Painter: “I once met a trans person who was selfish/mean/creepy/bad in general, so you’re all like that and I won’t respect any of you.”

The Inveterate Essentialist: “But… you can’t be a woman, because you have a PENIS! And chromosomes! And… a PENIS!”

The What-About-Teh-Cis Whiner: “I know my refusal to call you ‘she’ hurts you, but you have to understand that your demand to call you ‘she’ hurts me, too. What about my feelings?”

The Pig-Headed “Skeptic”: “Do you have actual evidence that you’re really a woman? No, of course you don’t, because it’s impossible by definition. No, shut up; I’m right and you’re wrong, PERIOD.”

The “Free Speech” Whiner: "Don’t you think that, in the spirit of free and open discussion, you should listen to my side of things instead of just dismissing it out of hand as ‘bigotry’?”

The Devil’s Advocate: “I’m not saying prejudice is right, but, to be fair, it is a little weird for someone to present as a woman and yet have a penis.”

The Self-Proclaimed “Ally”: “How dare you say I’ve been cissexist? Don’t you know how very supportive I’ve been of you and your causes? Why aren’t you grateful?”

The “Edgy” Comedian: “Look, it was a joke. I’m sorry you’re too unsophisticated to understand why it’s funny; I guess I’m just too edgy for you. Maybe one day, when you grow up a little, you’ll stop trying to censor humor.”

(Hint to cis people: don’t do any of these things.)

This is the shit I have to put up with.

There are some days where you just know something is gonna lead you to rage. 

A friend of mine on Facebook posted a picture of one of those trans*girls who always does porn and shit, can’t remember which one, saying “I don’t care if she’s TS or not, she’s hot”. 

Well, this never ends well. One asshole started using the whole “biology” argument. I gave him a simple “fuck you”. Then I get this message.

Sorry, bud, but you’re a man. You might think, act and dress like a woman, and that’s totally fine! I couldn’t give a shit less what you do. But scientifically speaking, until you have that operation, you’re a man.

What if I believe in my heart of hearts that I’m really a dolphin? Does that make me a dolphin? Can I perform the basic actions of a dolphin? And I don’t mean reproduction, plenty of men and women can’t reproduce and that by no means excludes them from their gender so let’s not get into that. But unless I have a surgery to totally reform my body into that of a dolphin… I’ll never be a dolphin. Right?

FUCK. EVERYTHING. I hate using stupid fucking words like “cis privilege” and “cissexism”, but well, I can’t go without using it here. This is fucking ridiculous. This is the shit I put up with. This is why I have no self-confidence. This is why I hate myself.

Yeah, it’s just one shitstain, but well… words hurt.

Jan 8

tw: transphobia and cissexism

I just saw someone on tumblr describe transpeople as being “selfish as fuck”.

Oh dear.

Let me just say that this… this pisses me off to no end, because I’ve heard this several times in my life.

So let me get this straight. I’m selfish because my identity doesn’t quite match the body I was born in and would like to be treated with an ounce of respect and maybe an iota of dignity?

I actually lost a few friends because they “didn’t see it”. Well guess what? Fuck ‘em. If something like that is “ending friendship-worthy” then y'know what? They’re not your friends, and you’re better off without them.

I’m sorry that who I am doesn’t mesh with how you see me or how you THINK I should be. Ultimately, who or what you are matters to only one person: you. There’s nothing wrong with being yourself, and that goes to everyone, not just transpeople. 

Here’s a fun fucking fact. I’m the only MAAB on my mom’s side of the family that’s blood-related to my grandfather. That’s right, my mom has no brothers and I have no male cousins on that side of the family. When I was born my grandparents couldn’t be happier. Of course they don’t know, but that’s besides the point. I’m NOT sorry that who I turned out to me ended up being different from how I started. It’s who I am and I can’t change that. But YOU have a choice in whether or not you want to accept that fact. 

Angry rant over.