The Hind End of Space

zjemptv:

It’s okay. I know a lot of people who just want to be able to blend in, not have it be an issue, and not deal with odd looks from people or wonder if people are second-guessing your gender even as they’re seemingly polite. That’s a motivation I’ve heard from a lot of stealth people. That’s legitimate and it’s a real thing and I totally understand it; not wanting to be seen as a “man” was a big part of my social dysphoria. Nobody has to “pass”, nobody has to be stealth - but nobody has to be out, either. As always, people should do whatever they feel they need to do to take care of themselves.

poppunkvampire-deactivated20171:

drag queens often perform incredibly catty misogynistic stereotypes of womanhood and use a huge amount of misogynistic slurs and transmisogynistic slurs. it’s also incredibly common for drag circles to excuse or actively engage in racism, see Shirley Q Liquor, who wears actual blackface onstage (which RuPaul defended publicly and insisted wasn’t racist). and when RuPaul’s Drag Race was called out by the trans community for frequently using transmisogynistic slurs and then designing a game on the show where the goal was literally to “clock” trans women, the drag community rose to defend him, and he got away with a weak-ass fauxpology. additonally, drag is a performance, so the performers can shed womanhood (particularly the dangerous territory of DMAB womanhood) at will, and do not actually experience misogyny or transmisogyny in any real way. drag culture also often blurs the lines between drag and non-cis genders as a way of excusing transmisogyny, which perpetuates attitudes in queer communities that non-cis genders are performative and therefore to be judged on how “well” they are performed. this often makes cis queer spaces very uncomfortable for trans people; people will openly clock you and comment on your ability to “pass”. I have no problem with drag as a gender expression, or with DMAB people who express femininity, but I have a huge fucking problem with drag culture.