Trans women and restlessness
Cis people don’t realize that trans women weren’t born with the feeling of calm they have. And then were traumatized repeatedly through our entire girlhoods and many of us repressed a bunch of emotions during adulthood until finally coming out… only to be traumatized at a blinding rate again. Are you seeing a pattern here? We never got to sit down.
Now, some of us -it helps to have various privileges- are getting the chance to sit down, become less hyper-vigilant, and become gentle towards ourselves after so many people have been very not gentle with us. That is a beautiful thing and this blog is about my own coming to that, but can we just look at this for a second?
The trans woman you (say, cis women) think are a bit much, the ones who you think need to turn a down a notch? The gap isn’t that they’re “a bit masculine for you,” the gap is that you’ve never met someone who’s been through so much shit and never had a chance to rest.
